Emva kweeholide zeKrisimesi kuza kwakhona ithambeka elidumileyo likaJanuwari, intetho esiqhele ukubhekisa kuyo ukudodobala koqoqosho ukuba abantu abaninzi badlula kwaye loo nto ibanyanzela ukuba "baqinise amabhanti abo". Noko ke, kwiimeko ezininzi asingombandela nje wezoqoqosho. Kwaye ukufunda ukulawula kunye nokoyisa ukuthambeka kukaJanuwari kuba yimfuneko kwimpilo yethu yengqondo.
iyakubiza buyela kwisiqhelo emva kweKrisimesi? Ngaba uziva unetyala emva kweekati ezenziwe ngexesha leeholide? Ukuba uneemvakalelo zolu hlobo, ithambeka elidumileyo likaJanuwari lingaphezulu komcimbi wezoqoqosho kuwe. Ngaba uyafuna ukufunda ukuyilawula ngcono? Sabelana nawe ngezitshixo esikholelwa ukuba zingakunceda.
iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo
Ezinye iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo emva kweeholide zeKrisimesi ziyasithintela jongana nokubuyela kwisiqhelo ukuya kwi-100%. Ukuzichonga kunye nokwazi imvelaphi yazo ngundoqo ekwazini indlela yokulawula. Ezi zezinye zezona zixhaphakileyo:
- Nostalgia kunye nosizi. IKrisimesi lixesha apho sithanda ukujonga ngasemva kwaye sikhumbule abantu abangasekhoyo. Iinkumbulo ezinokusenza sibe nolangazelelo oluthile nosizi, kodwa azimbi kangako. Ikwalixesha apho siye sithathele ingqalelo into esiye sadibana nayo kulo nyaka uphelileyo; inguquko enokuthi isenze siqonde ukuba asikho kwindawo ebesifuna ukuba kuyo. Ngaba uziva ubandakanywa nayo?
- Ukuba netyala. Kutheni ndichithe imali engaka? Kutheni ndibuyela kwinto enye unyaka nonyaka? Ngaba awuyazi indlela yokubeka imida? Ukuba uzibuza le mibuzo, kungenxa yokuba uziva unetyala ngezigqibo ozenzileyo kwiKrismesi edluleyo.
- Ukukhathazeka. "Ndiphuma kwindlela yam kwabanye kwaye akukho mntu undenzela yona ...», "Ndihlala ndinguye onyamekela yonke into ... »Ngamanye amaxesha ityala elikhankanywe ngasentla lidibaniswa nokukhungatheka kokuvakalelwa kukuba thina sisodwa kule nto, ukuba singafumani kangangoko sinikela ngako
Indlela yokulawula
Ezi mvakalelo rhoqo emva kweKrismesi azisithwali nzima ngendlela efanayo, yaye azisoloko zisenjenjalo. Kodwa xa oko kusenzeka kwaye isithintele ekuqhubeleni phambili kuyimfuneko ukuthatha inyathelo ngalo mba kwaye wenze. Okokuqala ukunika isithuba kwiimvakalelo kwaye okwesibini ukuthatha uxanduva lwazo. Kodwa kanjani?
- Nika isithuba kwiimvakalelo. UJanuwari unokuba yinyanga enzima. Ukubuyela emsebenzini nakwiimbopheleleko kunokusongamela ukuba zinxulunyaniswa nezinye iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo. Kwaye undoqo wokumelana nayo kukwazi oku kwaye wamkele ukuba uJanuwari yinyanga yokufumana uxanduva olutsha. Ulibale ezo "zifanele" iintsuku ezimbalwa kwaye ugxininise kwinto esele iyinkqubo yakho.
- Misela inkqubo efikelelekayo. Ukuba nocwangciso kusinceda sizuze ukuzinikela okukhulu kwimisebenzi yethu yasekhaya. Nangona kunjalo, le ndlela yesiqhelo kufuneka ingafikeleleki kuphela kodwa ibandakanye umsebenzi othile omnandi ukwenza uJanuwari anyamezeleke ngakumbi. Le yokugqibela nayo iyimfuneko ukwenzela ukuba kwimeko apho uvakalelwa kukuba usenza into enye emva konyaka ivelisa ukukhungatheka, unokulwa nayo.
- Lawula iinjongo ezingenakwenzeka. Bahlala bezama ukusithengisela amabinzana oluhlobo: "nabani na ofunayo angakwazi", "umzamo uhlala unika iziphumo"... ezisenza sizive sinetyala ngento esingayiphumeleliyo. Ulibale ngabo! Lungisa usukelo neenjongo zakho ukuze zibe zezisengqiqweni kwimeko yakho nakwiimeko zakho. Kwaye uhlukanise ezo zifuna umgudu ngakumbi kwiinjongo ezincinci onokuthatha uxanduva ngalunye. Khetha iinjongo ezithetha into kuwe kwaye ulibale malunga "nokufuneka", "bandixelele ukuba kuya kuba lula ..." njalo njalo.
- sebenzela ukwahluka. Kwaye ukuba ucinga ukonwabela iKrisimesi eyahlukileyo phakathi kweenjongo zakho? Yintoni ekukhathaza kakhulu ngabo? Cinga ngayo unyaka wonke, hayi ngoku, kwaye ufumanise ukuba zeziphi izinto ofuna ukuzitshintsha kwaye yintoni oza kuyitshintsha. Inokukunceda wenze uqingqo-mali, utshintshe uhlobo lwezipho oziphayo, okanye ude uyeke ukuthobela imithetho yentlalo eyenza imeko ibe mbi ngakumbi.
Musa ukuzibekela usukelo ongenakulizalisekisa okanye uzinyanzele ukuba uphile. Musa ukuziqhatha. Zama ukulawula inyanga kaJanuwari ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo kwaye uqhubele phambili unyaka wonke ukuphepha usizi kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu kunyaka olandelayo.