Ukutsala uthando lobomi bakho, awudingi ukuthakatha okanye imilingo. Yinkqubo elula yokuzazi, ukuvuthwa kunye nokuvuleka kwengqondo. Abo bahamba ubomi ngentliziyo ezele luloyiko kunye noloyiko lokwenzakala kwakhona, okanye ngokuthandabuza okukhulu malunga nolwalamano lwabo olunomdla, abasayi kuba nakho ukuzinika ithuba lokuba bonwabe kwakhona.
Uthando alucwangciswanga, kwaye alulawulwa, kwaye nangaphantsi alucelwa. Uthando luyashukunyiswa kukukhohlisa komntwana y la prudencia de una persona que sabe caminar con pies de plomo, y sabe valorarse a si misma. Sabe lo que merece. Hoy en «Bezzia» queremos sugerirte 5 formas en que puedes conseguirlo.
Yiba nenyani: iintsomi azikho
Kunokwenzeka ukuba ngaphezulu kwesinye xa ufunda isihloko seli nqaku (ukutsala uthando) Usenokuba ucinga ukuba siza kunika isikhokelo esisekwe, umzekelo, kumthetho wokutsala. Oku akunjalo, okanye kungenjalo kuyo yonke imigaqo yayo. Ukutsala uthando lobomi bethu, uthando oluqolileyo, oluvuthiweyo nolunexabiso, kufuneka siqwalasele oku kulandelayo:
- Awufuni ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo, cinga ngothando "lokwenene".
- Akukho ndoda igqibeleleyo, ngokungathi akukho bafazi bagqibeleleyo.
- Imalunga nokufumana iqabane elilungileyo elihambelana namaxabiso ethu, ngubani oyindumasi yokungabikho kwethu kunye nokukhanya kumaxesha ethu obuhlungu. Umntu "owaziyo ukwakha" hayi "ukutshabalalisa."
- Musa ukucinga ngothando lwesithandani, okanye uthando lwanaphakade. Uthando kufuneka luphile yonke imihla kunye neenkcukacha ezincinci. Kufuneka sinyaniseke, silumke kwaye singabi nabungqongqo.
Vula ingqondo yakho kwaye unakekele intliziyo yakho
Sithetha ntoni ngokuvula ingqondo? Sonke, ngandlela thile, sinoloyiko, ukusikelwa umda kwethu, amava ethu adlulileyo kunye nezinto ezisixhalabisayo. Okwangoku ebomini, ubhaka wakho sele ulayishwe kakhulu ngamava.
Ngoku, sukuvumela imicimbi yexesha elidlulileyo ukuba inciphise iingcinga zakho kwaye ikwenze uphulukane namathuba. Vula ingqondo yakho kwaye ujonge ngeenxa zonke kuwe, yazi ukuba yintoni ekujikelezile nokuba yeyiphi na.
- Sukuhlala kwindawo yokutyela kwaye ujonge imiyalezo yakho kwiselfowuni. Beka ifowuni ecaleni kwaye uphile apha kwaye ngoku, mamela isandi sesixeko, phefumla, wonwabe ... Ithuba linokuvela nangaliphi na ixesha.
- Khuthaza iimeko ezintsha ebomini bakho ezikuvumela ukuba udibane nabantu: bhalisela iikhosi, iiklasi zokupeyinta, iyoga, umdaniso ... Nantoni na ehamba nawe.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba ukhangela ntoni?
Siyazi ukuba asinakuhlala silawula iintliziyo zethu okanye sikhethe ukuba sithandana nabani kwaye ngubani esingathandani naye. Ngoku, kufuneka sicace gca malunga noko sikufunayo kunye noko singakulungelanga ukukuvumela:
- Uyakwazo oko ukhangela umntu okwaziyo ukukuqonda, okuxabisileyo kwaye oko kuyazi, ngaphezulu kwako konke, ukukunika ukonwaba hayi usizi.
- Uyamthanda umntu oko kwenza ubomi bakho bube lula, bube mnandi ngakumbi kwaye buzalisekise. Hayi umntu okuzisa izithunzi kunye nokudana.
- Kuya kufuneka ukuba uqaphele iinkcukacha ezininzi kumntu ngamnye oza kuwe. Musa ukukhohliswa bububele bangaphambili, okanye umtsalane oqaqambileyo. Funda ngasemva kwezimbo zomzimba uze ubalumkise ngakumbi abo bangazibeki phambili ngokwabo, i Abayisebenzisi isigqebelo njengendlela yokuhlasela okanye abangasebenzisi sikhohlakali ngokweemvakalelo.
Yiba ngumntu ofuna ukumfumana
Ukuba ufuna umntu okwenza uzive ukhuselekile, qala ufumane ukhuseleko lwakho kuwe. Ukuba ufuna umntu aphelise isizungu sakho, qala uzame ukonwabela wedwa.
- Akufuneki ujonge umntu othile onoxanduva lokucima uloyiko lwakho okanye lokujongana nokuzalisa izithuba zakho.
- Kuya kufuneka uzinikele njengomntu opheleleyo, ongenazinto zinzima, onwabile ukuba unjani, ngenxa yento oyiphumezileyo. Ukuba wonwabile, ukuba uziva wonwabile malunga nokuba unjani, uya kuba nakho ukutsala umntu oneempawu ezifanayo.
- Ayisiyonto yokukhangela isiqingatha sakho esingcono. Awunguye umntu okhohlakeleyo ofuna enye inkohlakalo. Ungumfazi opheleleyo ofuna iqabane elipheleleyo ukuba onwabe.
Zibonise njengoko unjalo, ukonwabele ubuhle bakho kunye nendalo
Awufuni ukuzenza into ongeyiyo. Xa kuziwa ekukhohliseni sithanda ukukhupha ezona zixhobo zibalaseleyo, kwaye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, nawe kufanelekile. Ngoku, sukuyidlulela kwinqanaba lokungazazi, musa ukunxiba isimbo esingesiyo esakho okanye ongaziboni ukhululekile kuso.
Omnye umntu kufuneka asixabise kwaye atsaleleke kwinto abayibonayo, kwaye oko bakubonayo kufuneka kube yinto yakho kwaye kukuchonge. Uyakwazo oko Nabani okukuthandayo ekuthandeni kuzo zonke izidima zakho nakwisiphene sakho ngasinye.
Ke, xa ushiya ikhaya, hamba nokhuseleko lwabo bantu bazibonakalisayo emhlabeni ngokuthembeka, usazi ukuba bayathandeka kuba bonwabile ngenxa yempumelelo yabo, kwimpumelelo nganye efumanekayo, kwikona nganye yomzimba wabo ukuba yintoni, iyintoni, ichaza, kwaye uthanda oko.
Ukutsala uthando, njengoko besitshilo ekuqaleni, awuyidingi imilingo yomlingo. Uyazidinga, ngentliziyo evulekileyo, ngentshiseko nangokukhuseleka komfazi ocacileyo ukuba ufuna ntoni, kwaye ke, yintoni ongayifuniyo ebomini bakho.