IKrismesi ngaphandle kweqabane? Akhongxaki! Ngokwenene inokuba lixesha elihle lokunandipha ezi ntsuku zokugqibela zonyaka ngenye indlela, ugxile kukhetho ongakhange ulithathele ingqalelo kude kube ngoku. Kukho abantu abajamelana neli xesha ngendlela engathandekiyo, apho imeko yosapho ihlala idunyiswa ngaphezulu kwako konke. Kodwa ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into kufuneka sisebenze ngokuqolileyo sithathela ingqalelo inkalo enye: akuyomfuneko ukuba neqabane ukonwaba. Ngokuqinisekileyo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba sithathe ingqalelo kunesidingo sokuba nomntu osecaleni kwethu ukuze sigqibe ubomi bethu.
Umntu oqolileyo okwaziyo ukubonwabela ubomi eyedwa, ethatha imiceli mngeni kunye neeprojekthi kwaye onwabela izihlobo zakhe kunye nosapho, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ngumntu onokuzithemba okukhulu kunye nokulingana onokukwazi ukonwabela ubomi njengaye nawuphi na omnye umntu. Ngaphezulu, ubuntu obuzimeleyo kunye nokuzithemba okuhle, kamva banika ubudlelwane babo nokukhula okufanelekileyo kakhulu. Kwelinye icala, abo bantu bangakhuselekanga abayibonayo inyani yokuba bodwa kancinci kunelishwa, zihlala zibonakalisa kubudlelwane babo nokuziphatha okuphezulu komona, ukungathembani kunye nokuzithemba okungalunganga. Ke, ukungabinalo iqabane ngeli xesha akuyongxaki. Ngumzuzu wokonwabela kwaye ukusuka apho, siza kukubonisa zonke izibonelelo zalo ngezantsi.
Sinda kwaye wonwabele iKrisimesi ngaphandle kweqabane lakho ngokupheleleyo
1. Indlela yokusinda ekudibaneni kosapho
Siyazi. Ingxaki ephambili inokuhlala ngokuchanekileyo kwezi zehlo zeKrisimesi apho kufuneka sidibane nosapho. Mhlawumbi isimilo sikaBridget Jones siza engqondweni ngoku kunye nendlela awayefanele ajongane ngayo nawo onke amalungu osapho awayemkhumbuza, umzekelo, ukuba "iwotshi yebhayoloji yayikhathaza." Ukuba yayilixesha lokuzinza kwaye ufumane iqabane elifanelekileyo. Musa ukuyithathela ingqalelo kwaye ucinge imeko ngokuzolileyo kunye nesigqebelo. Kungenzeka ukuba ufumane uluvo oluthile kwabo makhulu okanye kwabo bazala bangenangqondo, abasuka koomakhulu bethu, abasabambelele kwilixa langaphambili elingasokuze licingeke. Yenza into oyiyo, umntu owonwabileyo ongadingi kwamntu ngeli xesha ukonwabela ubomi. Ngaphezu, ukungatshati kukunika ithuba kunye nenkululeko yokwenza okungaphezulu kwenxalenye enkulu yosapho oluza kuhlala nawe ukubhiyozela uEva weKrisimesi. Ngapha koko, cwangcisa ezo ntlanganiso kwangaphambili kwaye uye kwezona zingenabungozi kuwe. Ukuphela konyaka, umzekelo, kufanele ukuba kwenzelwe wena kuphela.
2. Ixesha leeprojekthi ezintsha, iimbono ezintsha
Ukuphela konyaka ngokungathandabuzekiyo lixesha elihle lokwenza izicwangciso, ukwenza setha iinjongo ezincinci zexesha elide nelifutshane. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuhlala kwisibini, asinalo ithuba lokucinga kakhulu ngathi, malunga noko sikufunayo kunye noko sifuna ukukufikelela. Nguwo ke lo mzuzu wokwenza isenzo sokungena ngaphakathi kwaye kwangaxeshanye sizikhathalele ngakumbi. Uzibona njani kwixa elizayo? Ngomnye umsebenzi, uhlala kwesinye isixeko? Ukuthatha olo hambo uhlala uphupha ngalo? Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka siqhubele phambili kwinkalo ethile yobomi bethu ukuze sizive ngcono kwaye sonwabe. Yenza utshintsho. Kwaye oko kufuna isibindi kunye namandla. Kungenzeka ukuba lo nyaka uphelayo khange ube ngowakho kwaye khange wonwabe njengoko bekulindelekile. Yiyo loo nto le Khrismesi inokusebenza njengebhulorho kwezinye iiprojekthi. Jonga izizathu zakho kunye nokukhanya kwemihla ngemihla ukukhanya kwakho kungekudala. Ngumzuzu wakho, umzuzu wokukhula kwangaphakathi ukuba isizungu sinokusixhasa. Kwaye kufanelekile ukusebenzisa ithuba.
3. Yonwabele iKrisimesi ngendlela eyahlukileyo
Unokuba ungomnye wabo baziva bengakhululekanga ngale mihla. Ukuba kunjalo, isenokuba lixesha lokuba ubhekane nabo ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunangaphambili. Ukuba unamathuba oqoqosho anokulunga thatha uhambo nokuba ibiziintsuku ezimbini, kuphela ukuphela konyaka. Inyaniso ebalulekileyo kuwo wonke umjikelo wobomi kukugcina iinkumbulo ezilungileyo, ukwakha loo trunk yamava apho sinokukhumbula khona ukuba sasiyintoni na kwinqanaba lethu ngalinye. Iihambo zizihlandlo zokungafaki kuphela kwi-albhamu yezithombe, kodwa nakwiziqu zethu. Umbono osisiseko kukuchitha ezi holide ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ukunqanda ukuba zilusuku nje olunye lonyaka. Kwaye ukungabinalo iqabane akufuneki "kunqumle amaphiko ethu" nangayiphi na indlela, ngokuchaseneyo.
Ukuchitha iiholide nabahlobo ikwangumbono olungileyo, kwaye kungabizi mali xa silungiselela kakuhle. Kodwa ukuba umbono wakho, umzekelo, ukukhuthaza amathuba amatsha okufumana iqabane, unokufumana izindululo ezinomdla kwi-Intanethi apho amaqela ahlelwe khona ekuthiwa Abangatshatanga. Ziziganeko ezimnandi apho udibana nabantu abatsha kwaye mhlawumbi uqala ubudlelwane obutsha. Kodwa oku kuhlala kuxhomekeke kuwe nakwinto oyifunayo ngamaxesha onke. Musa ukuzinyanzela, yonwabele "apha ngoku." Kodwa khumbula okokuqala uluvo olusisiseko: akuyomfuneko ukuba neqabane ukonwaba. Ungaze wenze le mpazamo. Ukonwaba kufumaneka ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba ulungile nathi, siziva sinebhongo malunga nokuba singoobani kunye nemibono yokuphila ubomi obupheleleyo apho sinakho nantoni na. Kwaye iKrismesi ihlala ilixesha elihle lokuphila kwaye wonwabe.