Chokwadi icho mukati mako hunokanganisa hupenyu Iwe wakawira murudo kanoverengeka uye hazvina kumbove zvakafanana nzira. Zvinogona kunge kuti pane dzimwe nguva chishuwo uye chishuwo chebonde zvinokunda, kune rumwe rutivi, pane vamwe, iwe unokoshesa kuzvipira kwakawanda uye kudanana kwerudo. Hatigare tichisimbisa hukama hwakafanana nehukama nevamwe vedu, saka nyanzvi dzinotiudza kuti kune nzira dzakasiyana dzekuwira murudo.
Dzimwe nguva zvinoenderana nehunhu hwedu uye kunyangwe nehupenyu hwatiri kurarama. Kune vanhu vasingade kusimbisa hukama hwakagadzikana uye Kuzvipira. Saka, vanongofarira kusangana kwakajairika uko hukama hwepfungwa husina kusimbiswa zvakanyanya. Pane dzimwe nguva uye patinosvika zera, zvakajairika kuti tide kuwana wokuroorana naye akatsiga wokukura naye totanga mhuri. Pane nzira dzakawanda dzaungapinda nadzo murudo. Uye mufaro hauvimbiswi mune zvese, ndosaka zvakakodzera kuita ongororo pfupi. Nhasi mu Bezzia, tinotaura newe nezvenzira dzakasiyana dzerudo.
Mhando dzerudo
Kusimbisa iyi classification isu ticha tevera dzidziso yeiyo Canadian psychologist John Alan Lee. Uyu munyori akasimbisa makore mashoma apfuura anonakidza matanhatu-mativi typology uko, zvirokwazvo, hauzongozvioni iwe pachako uchiratidza, asiwo vazhinji vevanhu vanoita denderedzwa rako rega.
1. Agape (Zvese zveimwe)
Izwi iri, Agape, rinobva muchiGiriki uye rinoreva kuzvipira, kupa. Saka zvino tinoshandisa sei izwi iri kune chero hukama hwedu? Iwe uchazvinzwisisa ipapo uye iwe uchaona kuti zvakajairika sei kwauri. Rudo rwunonzi "agape" runoitika kana tichizvipa kune imwe ye bofu pasina kubvunza chero chinhu. Isu tinogutsa zvido zvemumwe nemumwe uye zvishuwo, kusvika padanho rekuzvikanganwa isu pachedu. Ingozi yakakura kwazvo apo dzimwe nguva, tinorasikirwa nekuzviremekedza kwedu nekuda kweiyo "kuzvipira" kune imwe. Kudonha murudo neiyi nzira hakumbofi kwakagwinya, saka kuda kwekuwana chiyero. Usambofa wakazvipa zvese zvako kana usingaone kuzivikanwa. Ukasaona ruremekedzo uye kana pasina kudzokedzana.
2.Eros
Iyi nzira yerudo chinhu icho pasina mubvunzo isu tese takanzwa. Pamusoro pazvose pane kukwira pabonde, kukwezva kwakasimba mumuviri uye kuda kusinganzwisisike. Isu tinongova nehanya nezve chinhu chimwe chete: kudzorerwa. Uye kana izvi zvikasaitika, kutambura kukuru kunoonekwa. Iko kunenge kusingadzoreki kunzwa uko kusingawanzo kugara kwenguva yakareba nekufamba kwenguva, vanachiremba vezvepfungwa vanotaura nesu kubva kumwedzi mishoma kusvika pakudarika makore maviri.
3. Ludus (Hunter Instinct)
Iwe unogona kunge wakambozvirarama. Iyo Ludus ihwohwo hukama-hwehukama. Hatigone kana kutaura nezverudo. Chete chishuwo uye mufaro wekunyengedza kuti uwane munhu chero nguva yakapihwa. Ivo vanhu varikutsvaga husiku humwechete kumira kana kunyanya, chimwe chinhu chisingagare kupfuura mavhiki mashoma kana mwedzi mishoma. Asi chenjera, hapana kuzvipira chero nguva uye zvakajairika kuti hukama hwakawanda hunogona kuitwa panguva imwe chete. Iwo ndihwo hukama uko bonde rinokosheswa kupfuura zvimwe zvese asi mukati maro musina kana kumbove nekunyepedzera kwakajeka
4 Pragma (Inobatsira accounting)
Hukama hwekuda kuziva kuti, kunyangwe zvichikushamisa iwe, zvinoitika kazhinji. Inokosheswa pamusoro pezvose kushanda kwehukama. Munhu uyu achave baba kana amai vemhuri vakanaka here? Uchakwanisa here kuchengeta basa rako uye nekubhadhara mogeji pamba neni? Munhu achakwanisa kundinyengera mangwana here? Hupenyu hwangu huchave hwakaita sei mukati memakore gumi nemunhu uyu? Kudonha nemunhu wemhando idzi kunewo njodzi. Shure kwehunhu uhwu pane hunhu hwekusagadzikana hunogona kutikuvadza chaiko.
5. Mania kana kubatikana (Ghost yekurasikirwa)
Zvakafanana nekugara pane kunakidzwa-kuenda-kutenderera kwemanzwiro. Hukama mauri kufara nhasi uye mangwana, hauna mufaro. Izvi zvinonyanya kukonzerwa nekuva nehukama hwehukama ne hunhu hwakanyanya, uye zvakare godo. Iko hakuna kuenzana kana kugadzikana. Havativimbe uye vanobva vatizadza nekutarisa sepanguva yacho, vanotizvidza nekuda kwekusavatarisira. Kuti isu titarise kune vamwe kupfuura iye. Iwe unofanirwa zvakare kuve wakangwarira kana uchidanana nemhando idzi dzema profiles, iwo pasina mubvunzo hukama hune chepfu kubva kwatinofanira kuziva kuzvidzivirira kwedu.
6. Storge (Shamwari dzine mvumo yekuita bonde)
Chokwadi wakambozvirarama imwe nguva. Ku yunivhesiti, kubasa, neshamwari kubva kune yako denderedzwa ... Hwahwo hukama hunotanga kubva pakutanga, pakati pevanhu vaviri vanozivana uye avo, chero panguva ipi zvayo, vanogona kupedza husiku pamwe chete. Asi mune izvi zviitiko hazvidi kuti kuve nerudo. Kune hushamwari, kunzwisisa uye kubatana kwemaitiro. Iko hakuna kuratidzwa kwakadaro kwerudo kwehukama hwehukama, uyezve hakuna kukwezvwa kwepanyama. Kuvimbana chete, kunzwisisa uye zvakafanana zvido. Zviyero izvo dzimwe nguva isu tinotadza kumisikidza neiyo imwechete kusimba nevatinoshanda navo. Icho chinoda kuziva mhando yehukama inoitika kazhinji kwazvo. Zvirokwazvo hazvizivikanwe kwauri.
Mukupedzisa. Muhupenyu hwedu hwese tinogadzira mhando dzakawanda dzehukama hwepamoyo kana hwepanyama nevamwe vanhu. Kudonha murudo kunogara kuri chiitiko chakakosha uye kubva kwaunowana mufaro, rudo uye zvakare nzira yekuzviziva iwe zvirinani. Asi gara uchiyeuka kuchengetedza kuzviremekedza kwako uye kwete kupa zvese kune mumwe munhu kana iwe ukaona kuti hauna kudzorerwa. Kudzivisa kukuvadza mumwe uye zvakare kuchengetedza kwedu kwemanzwiro, inzira yakanaka yekudzidza, yekuyedza kudzamara tawana mutambo wedu wakakwana. Iye munhu anokwanisa kutifadza. Isu tinogovana zviitiko zvako. Uye iwe, munzira ipi yaunowanzowira murudo?