Vanhu vazhinji havazvizive, asi hushamwari imhando yerudo inoitika pakati pevanhu vaviri uye izvo zvinogona kukanganiswa nerudo rwepabonde. Dzimwe nguva zvinogona kuoma kusiyanisa hushamwari kubva parudo rwechokwadi, zvichitungamira mukukanganiswa.
Saka zvakakosha kuti uve akajeka nguva dzese kana zvaunonzwa kune mumwe munhu rudo rwechokwadi here kana kuti hushamwari chete.
Maitiro ekuudza musiyano pakati peshamwari nerudo
Paunenge uchigadzira hukama hwakati nemunhu, Izvo zvakakosha kuti uzive kana rudo ruripo hushamwari kana kudanana. Pano tinokupa akateedzana matipi ayo achakubatsira kusiyanisa ese maviri mazano:
- Muhukama hwepabonde, vese vanhu vanoratidza rudo rwavanonzwa nenzira yemuviri sezvazvinoitwa nekumbundirana, kupuruzira kana kutsvoda. Kana zviripo pakati pevanhu vaviri hushamwari, hazviwanzo kuti kuratidzwa kwerudo kwakadai kunoitika kunyangwe paine zvinosiiwa.
- Kushamwaridzana chinhu chakajairika uye chakanyanya kuita chinhu murudo rwemurume uye izvo hazviwanzo kuitika muhukama hwehukama. Ukama hwepedyo uhwu hunowanzo sanganisirwa nehunhu hwepabonde, kunyangwe izvi zvisiri izvo nguva dzose, sezvazviri kune vanhu vanoita zvepabonde vasingaratidzi kufarira bonde.
- Kuzvipira ndechimwe chezvinhu zviripo muhukama. Vanhu vaviri ava vanoda kumwe kuzvipira kana zvasvika pakusimbisa chisungo, zvichitungamira mukusuwa kana izvi zvikasaitika. Kana tichive chikamu chehukama, zvakajairika kuti vese vanhu vanodikanwa kuti vape kuzvipira kune vaviri uye nekudaro vachengetedze hukama pakati pavo. Kuzvipira hakuwanzo kuwanikwa muhukama hwehukama.
- Tsitsi nekusuwa hazvigone kuvepo muhukama hwerudo. Kuva nemunhu kunze kwekurwadziwa uye kuti vasazonzwa kusurukirwa, harugone kuve rudo chero nguva. Rudo rwakanyanya kupfuura izvozvo uye harugone kuvakwa chero nguva pane tsitsi uye tsitsi.
- Iwo manzwiro akanzwa chimwe chikamu chinotibvumidza kusiyanisa rudo kubva kune hushamwari. Panyaya yehukama hwerudo, manzwiro akararama uye akanzwa akanyanya kuwanda. Pfungwa yekuti vaviri vangarambane inogona kukonzera manzwiro emarudzi ese shungu kana kushushikana muvanhu. Panyaya yehukama, manzwiro acho akanyanyisa kuderera uye kupera kwawo hakuwanzo kukonzera mutambo wega. Kupera kwehukama hwerudo hakusi kudya kwekuravira kwakanaka kune chero munhu uye kuti vashoma vanhu vanoda kuti zviitike.
Saka zvakakosha kuti uzive kusiyanisa pakati pehukama hwechokwadi hwehukama uye hushamwari hwakareruka. Chimwe nechimwe chine hunhu hwacho chinoita kuti chinyatsobuda pachena. Nehurombo, nhasi kuchine vanhu vanoguma vavhiringidza mazwi ese uye vopinda muhukama hwerudo nemumwe munhu, apo chaicho chiripo hukama hwehukama.