Hapana mubvunzo kuti kukwanisa kunyatsobatana nemumwe munhu chinhu chinoshamisa uye chakasiyana. Dambudziko reizvi nderokuti rudo runoita kuti vaviri vacho vafungidzirwe nenzira yekuti chokwadi chaicho chinogona kukanganisa. Iko kurongeka kwevaviri kutorwa zvakanyanya kunogona kupedzisira kwave nengozi kumunhu uye kuhukama.
Munyaya inotevera tinokuratidza sei zvisingakurudzirwe kuti vaviri vacho vave pamusoro uye patsoka.
The idealization yevakaroorana
Hazvisi nyore kuziva kana mudiwa wacho akanyanya kurongeka. Kunzwa kana uine mudiwa kunofadza uye kunoshamisa, chimwe chinhu chinotitadzisa kuona kuti, semumwe munhu wese, vane hunhu hwavo uye nekukanganisa kwavo. Iwe unofanirwa kuziva kuona munhu ane zvinhu zvake zvakanaka uye zvakaipa zvake uye kwete kumuisa patsoka sezvo ichi chiri chinhu chisingabatsire hukama zvachose.
Ngozi yekufungidzira muhukama
Nguva zhinji, rudo rwekutanga runoita kuti vanhu vazhinji vafungidzire vaviri vacho miganhu isingafungidzirwe. Chinhu chakajairika ndechokuti nekufamba kwenguva, munhu wacho pachake anozivikanwa zviri nani uye haaitirwe paatari. Idealization inowanzoitika muvanhu vane chivimbo chakaderera uye kuzvidzora. Ngozi huru yekufungidzira kwakadaro imhaka yekuti panogona kuve nekumwe kuzviisa mukati mehukama. Iyo yakasarudzika chikamu chinobata uye chinodzora zvese uye chimwe chikamu chinobvuma pasina imwe ado.
Kukuvadzwa kumunhu akarongedzerwa
Kunyangwe zvingaite senge nhema, munhu akakodzera anotambura uye ane nguva yakaoma. Izvo zvinotarisirwa zvinoiswa pamunhu wako zvakanyanya uye kutya kwekuodza mwoyo mudiwa wako kwakanyanya. Dzvinyiriro yokuita kuti varoorani vafare inokosha zvikuru, chimwe chinhu, sezvinotarisirwa, chisingabetseri ukama pachahwo zvachose.
Zvekuita kuti udzivise mafungiro evaviri ava
Chinhu chokutanga kugara pasi nevaviri vacho mokurukura nyaya yacho vakasununguka. Zvakakosha kurega mumwe wako achikanganisa uye kukanganisa semumwe munhu. Kubva panguva iyoyo zvichienda mberi, zvakanaka kutanga kuona vaviri vacho semunhu wenyama neropa, anogona kukanganisa. Zvakakoshawo kutanga kuzvikoshesa uye kuzvida uye kubva ipapo kuratidza rudo kune vakaroorana. Muhukama hapagone kuve nepamusoro peumwe uye kugadzira kuenzanisa pakati pevanhu vese.
Muchidimbu, kugadzirisa mudiwa chinhu chine njodzi kune ramangwana rehukama hwese. Isai mudikani kumusoro-soro nepaartari zvinoreva kusaona kukanganisa uye kukanganisa kwaungaite uye kuzviisa pasi pekutonga kwavo zvizere. Muhukama panofanirwa kuve nekuenzana kwemapato anobvumira kuti ishande pasina dambudziko uye kuwana iyo yakamirirwa kwenguva refu kugara zvakanaka.