Iko kukosha kwekuve nemoyo murefu muhukama

Kunyangwe uine hukama hupi, kushivirira ndicho chinhu chakanyanya kukosha. Unofanirwa kudzidza kuve nemoyo murefu muhukama kuti unakirwe nerudo. Kana iwe uine rudo uye kushivirira, iwe wagadzirira hukama hukuru. Kushivirira hakuna kukosha chete kune hukama hwerudo, asi kwakakoshawo, mukufamba kwenguva, Izvo zvinokubatsira iwe kuve zvakanyanya mukutonga kwehupenyu hwako uye neizvozvo kunouya hutano hutano hwepfungwa.

Unogona kuda kufunga nezvako semunhu ane moyo murefu, asi kangani kaunotsamwira mumwe wako? Kuva nemoyo murefu zvinoreva kusatsamwa kana kugumbuka mune zvinonetsa uye zvisingafadzi mamiriro. Hapana mumwe wedu akakwana; Hatigone kushivirira nguva dzese, asi kana iwe uchinge wanzwisisa kukosha kwekushivirira Kune hukama hwakanaka hwehukama, iwe unenge uri munhu akaenzana zvakanyanya.

Kushivirira hachisi chinhu chaunozvarwa nacho; icho chinhu chaunowana pamusoro pemakore, ihwo hunyanzvi iwe hwaunogona kudzidza uye, kufanana nechero hunyanzvi, iwe unovandudza pamusoro pemakore. Iko kugona kwakakodzera kukudziridzwa nekuti, mukufamba kwenguva, uchave wakadzikama uye uve nekutonga pamusoro pehukama hwako kumba.

Sei uchifanira kukudziridza kushivirira kune rudo rwako hukama?

Kushivirira kwakakosha kune hukama hwerudo nekuda kwekubatsira kwenguva refu. Ichokwadi kuti zvinotora nguva, asi kana uchinge wadzidza kuwedzera hunyanzvi hwekutsungirira, unova munhu anofara. Izvi ndizvo zvinoitika nekuwedzera kushivirira:

• Iwe unowedzera kuva nemoyo murefu iwe pachako: Neichi chivimbo chitsva, iwe unogadzira kuwirirana mukati mako uko kunozopenya kupenya kwakawanda rudo nerunyararo zvakakukomberedza.
• Kushivirira kunokosha kwete chete kune hukama hwerudo asi zvakare mune yebasa mamiriro mauri ungakumbirwe kuve mutungamiri wechikwata. Kushivirira kunokutendera iwe kukudziridza hukama hwakasimba nevako vaunoshanda navo. Tarisa kushivirira sekudyara mune ramangwana.
• Unova munhu ane hutano. Kana iwe ukava nemoyo murefu uye wotadza kuzvidzora, muviri unoita zvisina kunaka: unogona kuona kufema kwekufema, muviri wako unoomarara.

Saka, Kana shamwari yako yepamwoyo ikakuudza kuti fuse yako ipfupi, muteerere iye, anogona kunge akarurama, iwe usisina moyo murefu uye izvi zvinogona kuve nemhedzisiro zvakakomba pahukama hwako, kunyangwe iwe watanga kufambidzana nemurume mutsva kana watove muhukama hwakareba.

Mune mamwe mazwi, kana iwe uchikwanisa kukudziridza kushivirira kwakakosha zvakanyanya kuhupenyu hwezuva nezuva, uri munzira yekuenda kusimba. Hunhu hwakadzikama uhu haungosimbise hukama hwerudo chete, zvakare hunobatsira iwe kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvako zvehunyanzvi.

Mupfungwa iyi, zvakakosha kuti iwe uve nekutsungirira muhupenyu hwako, kwete muhukama hwako chete asiwo mune chero chikamu chehupenyu hwako. Kana iwe uchishivirira uchave uine nguva dzekufara uye kukura kwako pachako. Iwe uchazoziva kumirira zvinhu uye kunakirwa neyazvino nguva zvakanyanya uye nevanhu vakakukomberedza.