Chiyambi cha banja lililonse nthawi zambiri chimakhala chowoneka bwino komanso changwiro, kugonjetsa zabwino kuposa zoipa. M'kupita kwa nthawi, maanja ambiri amasiya kuseri kwa idyll yomwe tatchulayi ya chiyambi ndi kulowa mu gawo lomwe kulankhulana ndi kulemekezana pakati pa maphwando kumawonekera chifukwa palibe. Chifukwa chake, kusowa kwa zinthu zina kumatha kupangitsa kuti ubalewo uthe kapena kukhala poyizoni.
Zinthu za chikhalidwe cha anthu zitha kukhalanso ndi udindo kuti banja siligwira ntchito ndipo imafooka m’kupita kwa nthawi. M’nkhani yotsatira tidzakambirana za kuipa kwa ubale umene ungakhalepo ndiponso zinthu zitatu zimene zimachititsa kuti pakhale kuipa.
Zotsatira
Kugwira ntchito mopitirira muyeso ndi kusowa kwa nthawi
Timadzipeza tokha m'gulu la anthu omwe amasankha ntchito kuti awononge maubwenzi a anthu. Kugwira ntchito mopambanitsa kudzayambitsa kuti pali kusasamala pankhani ya ubale. Izi zimabweretsa kudalira kwina kwa mnzanuyo kuti mukwaniritse kulimbikitsana kwa anthu. Kudalirana kumeneku nthawi zambiri kumayambitsa zokhumba zina za chikondi ndi chikondi zomwe nthawi zambiri sizikwaniritsidwa. Kupatula izi, nthawi yopuma kapena nthawi yopuma ndi yoyipa kwambiri, chinthu chomwe chingawononge moopsa mgwirizano womwe wapangidwa pakati pa maphwando.
Udindo wa abambo ndi amai pagulu
Palibe kukayikira kuti chikhalidwe cha anthu chikukula ndipo mwamwayi chiwerengero cha akazi chikufanana pang'onopang'ono ndi cha amuna. Vuto limakhala pamene mu banja lina maudindo atsopanowa akhazikitsidwa ndi anthu amakono, savomerezedwa ndi gawo lachimuna la banjalo. Komabe, pali njira yayitali yopitira ndipo ndi yakuti masiku ano, pali amayi ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto lopeza msika wogwira ntchito ndipo akupitiriza kukhala ndi udindo wa amayi apakhomo mkati mwa awiriwa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti akupitirizabe kukhala membala wofooka kwambiri mu chiyanjano ndikumverera kuti amadalira kwambiri wokondedwa wawo.
Ngati mkaziyo akugwira ntchito kunja kwa nyumba, cholemetsa chimakhala chachikulu popeza alinso ndi udindo wa ntchito zapakhomo. Zonsezi zimathandizira kuti mikangano yambiri ichitike yomwe ingayambitse kusokonekera kwaubwenzi wa banjali. Izi zikapanda kuyimitsidwa, zitha kuthetseratu chibwenzicho.
anthu ogula
Tikukhala ndipo tili kwathunthu m'gulu la ogula ndipo chilichonse chakhala chinthu champhamvu chokhumba. Mabanja angapo omwe sali enieni komanso ongoganizira akuwonetsedwa Iwo alibe chochita ndi dziko lenileni. Izi zimapangitsa maanja ambiri kuyang'anizana ndi zenizeni zomwe sizili zofanana ndi zomwe anthu amagulitsa. Izi, monga mwachizolowezi, zimakhala ndi zotsatira zoipa pa tsogolo la okwatirana, kupanga ubale wosakhutiritsa womwe supindulitsa mbali zonse. Choncho, tiyenera kuthawa zomwe gulu la ogula ili limalimbikitsa ndikudziwa zomwe dziko lenileni limapereka.
Mwachidule, pali zinthu zambiri za chikhalidwe cha anthu zomwe zidzakhudza mwachindunji ubale. Chikokachi chikhoza kukhala chabwino komanso choipa komanso bwerani kudzawononga banja. Izi zikachitika, ndikofunikira kuganizira zamitundu yosiyanasiyana komanso zizolowezi zatsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimakhalapo m'banjamo ndipo kuchokera pamenepo ndikuwonetsetsa kuti ubalewo sunawonongeke. Chikondi pamodzi ndi kulankhulana kwabwino ndi ulemu ndizofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino wopanda zinthu zoopsa zomwe zingatheke.
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