Kusakhulupirika, zowawa zomwe zimakhalapo nthawi zonse

Malinga ndi chidziwitso kuchokera ku CIS (Center for Sociological Research) ndi  Kafukufuku wa National Social Opinion Research Center, kusakhulupirika kwa akazi kukupitirizabe kuwonjezeka pakati pa okwatirana. Amuna akadali osakhulupirika kwambiri (21% kuposa akazi). Komabe, mfundo yomaliza makanema, ndikuti mzaka 6 zapitazi, ndife omwe tayamba kukweza machitidwe athu "osakhulupirika".

Kodi ndikulongosola kotani komwe kumapangitsa izi? Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe akatswiri amisala ndi akatswiri azachikhalidwe amatifotokozera ndikumagwiritsa ntchito bwino nsanja komwe titha kulembetsa mosadziwika kuti tipeze wokondedwa kapena kukhazikitsa zokumana nazo. Zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zotheka kugwera pamakhalidwe awa, muzochitika izi pomwe "zatsopano", "zosayembekezereka" zimafunidwa. Kaya zikhale zotani, pali china chake chomwe chikuwonekeratu. Kusakhulupirika ndichinyengo chachikulu kwambiri chomwe munthu angavutike nacho, ndipo mabala ake am'maganizo omwe amakhala mwa ife nthawi zambiri amakhala kwamuyaya. Mu «Bezzia» timakambirana za izi.

Kusakhulupirika, kuphwanya mgwirizano

Kusakhulupirika kumatha kufotokozedwa, moyenera, monga kuphwanya mgwirizano pakati pa anthu awiri. Tiyenera kunena kuti pokhazikitsa ubale wogwirizana, anthu awiriwa ayenera kudziwa bwino "zomwe mapanganowo ali."

Pali maanja, omwe amapanga ubale wotseguka, pomwe angavomereze kuti pali maubale ofanana. Sizachilendo koma zimapezekanso, ndipo ichi ndichinthu chomwe tiyenera kudziwa kuyambira pachiyambi. Zomwe mukufuna ndikuziyang'ana ziyenera kugwirizana ndi zomwe ndikufuna ndikuyembekeza, ndipamene mgwirizano umakhazikitsidwa, mgwirizano womwe tonsefe timaganizira kuti timalimbitsa chisangalalo chathu.

Tsopano, china chake chomwe anthu ambiri amakumana nacho ndi kusakhulupirika uku, kuswa kwa mgwirizano komwe tidamanga ubale wathu, kudzipereka kwathu ndi pulani yamtsogolo yomwe imatha mwadzidzidzi. Pali omwe pambuyo pake, amasankha kukhululuka ndikumenyera ubalewo. Komabe, pali anthu omwe sangasunthire kumbuyo kwa khoma limenelo ndi kuwawa komwe adzakumane nako ndi duel.

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Kodi timamvetsetsa chiyani ndi kusakhulupirika

Kodi kupsompsonana ndi kusakhulupirika kapena kuchita zachinyengo kwa wina amene akuganiza kuti akufuna kuchita zogonana? Izi mosakayikira ndizovuta, chifukwa nthawi zina, osafikira pachiwonetsero chodziwikiratu pakati pa anthu awiri, kusakhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika kumatha kuchitika pomwe mnzathu akhazikitsa ubale wolimba kwambiri ndi munthu wina komwe kulibe kugonana., Kufanana Mgwirizano umakhazikitsidwa wopanda chilungamo monganso zopweteka.

• Chifukwa chake, kusakhulupirika kumatha kuchitika munjira zina zomwe chilichonse chomwe chimamangidwa ndi mnzanu chimaphwanyidwa. Chifukwa ngati timakonda munthu wina sitipeza zifukwa zocheza ndi munthu wina, ngati timakonda timalemekeza ndikusamalira ubale womwe umatipindulira.
• Kusakhulupirika kumamveka ngati chinthu chilichonse pomwe kukhulupirirana kwa wina kwasweka. Kungakhale kupsompsona, kusisita, kunama kwa mnzathu kuti tizicheza ndi munthu wina ndipo zowonadi, kusakhulupirika kulinso kugonana, ngakhale zitakhala kuti nthawi zina zimachitika, ngakhale zitangochitika kamodzi.

Momwe mungachitire mukakumana ndi kusakhulupirika

Ichi ndi gawo lofunikira lomwe tiyenera kulilingalira. Palibe aliyense koma ife tokha omwe angasankhe momwe tingachitire ngati munthu wina wachita chigololo. Ngati mwasankha kukhululuka, ndichinthu chomwe muyenera kuyamikira. Ngati tasankha kuthetsa chibwenzicho, sitiyenera kumvera aliyense amene atiuze zimenezo "Gwiritsitsani pang'ono, zinthu izi zimachitika."

• Kuchita chisembwere ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri kuposa zonse, tiyenera kusamalira kudzidalira kwathu. Ngati tasankha kukhululuka, tiyenera kulingalira za momwe tichitire ndi zomwe zingakhudze ubale wathu. Ndipo koposa zonse, ngati titha kupitilizabe kudalira mnzake.
• Kaya tikufuna kapena ayi, kusakhulupirika kumasiya chilonda chachikulu chomwe si tonse omwe tili okonzeka kukumana nacho. Tsopano, ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse kuti kusakhulupirika kumatha kukhululukidwa kamodzi. Yemwe amabwereranso nthawi zambiri samalemekeza, ndipo samamvetsetsa kuti ndi chiyani kuti akhale ndiubwenzi wabwino komanso wachimwemwe.
• Mbali ina yofunika kuikumbukira ndi nkhani yomwe kusakhulupirika kumachitika. Nthawi zina, timakumana ndi nthawi zofunika zovuta zomwe nkhawa zingatipangitse kunyalanyaza ubale wathu, mwachitsanzo.
• Timakhazikitsanso zofunikira zina, monga ntchito, komwe mosazindikira, timayika pambali mnzake. Kusakhulupirika kamodzi, kumbali yathu kapena ndi bwenzi lathu, ndi zinthu zina zomwe timamvetsetsa zomwe zingatichenjeze kuti "pali zomwe takhala tikulakwitsa. Kuti tasiya kusamalira mgwirizano. Ndi chinthu chomwe tiyenera kulingalira.

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