Me yasa muke muna sumba? Mutane suna da wata buƙata ta al'ada don nuna ƙaunarmu ta hanyar sumba, amma wani lokacin, fiye da nuna ƙauna ko ƙauna, shi ma nau'in yare ne. Kuna iya mamakin sanin cewa ba duka sumban ɗaya suke ba. Abin da ya fi haka, watakila ma ku fahimci cewa kowane sumbatar da kuka yi daban-daban ne.
Muna sumbatar sha'awa, da dumi-dumi. Muna sumbanta don huce fushi bayan takaddama. Muna tashi tare da sumba kuma muyi ban kwana tare da wani. Babu mai dandano iri ɗaya. Kuma yana yiwuwa ma ka sumbaci kowane ma'auratan da ka samu tsawon rayuwarka ta wata hanyar daban. Babban sumba na samartaka. Waɗannan suna cike da farin ciki a cikin ɗan gajeren dangantakar rani ... Kisses are wani bangare na yarenmu kamar yadda tunanin halittu. Bari mu yi magana game da shi yau in Bezzia.
Menene dalilin sumbata?
A cewar Gordon G Gallup, masanin kimiyyar halittu a jami'ar Albany, leben mu ya sami banbanci dan aiwatar da manufa daya: don saukaka zaban mata. Wannan bayanan na iya ba ku mamaki, amma akwai masana kimiyya da yawa waɗanda ke tunatar da mu wani abu mai ban sha'awa:
- Sumba sumba ce ta rikitarwa wacce muke lura da ita ba tare da saninmu ba kwayoyin jituwa na abokan tarayyarmu.
- Baya ga wannan "musanyar yau", muna fahimtar fannoni kamar ƙanshi, taɓawa ko bayanan bayan fage ...
- Muna daidai mata mafi yawan zaɓa yayin neman abokin tarayya. Mu da muke ba da mahimmanci ga sumba, samun tare da su duk waɗannan mahimman bayanai ta hanyar rashin sani.
- Ta hanyar sumbanta, mutane kuma suna gano sadaukarwar abokin aikinmu. Mata sun kasance mafi mahimmanci. Mu da muka tsinkaya idan akwai gaskiya sahihi a cikin wannan aikin mai sauƙin, ko kuma akasin haka, to so ne mai sauƙi ba tare da motsin rai ba.
Kisses barometer ne na motsin rai
1. Dalilin ilimin halittu na sumba
Kiss ba sumayya ce mai sauƙi ba. Daga bakin. Muna da yakinin kai kanka da kanka za ka fahimci abubuwa da yawa idan an sumbace ka. Mun lura da sanyi ko wajibi, misali. Da rashin sha'awa na wasu ma'aurata wadanda watakila basu damu da mu ba.
Muna lura da bi da bi, ƙarfin tunani na waɗancan mutanen da ke ƙaunar mu da gaske. Wannan tare da sumbatar su, suna gaya mana fiye da kalmomi. Zamu iya cewa ba kawai suna cika bayanin ilimin halitta da na hankali bane. Hakanan barometer ne na motsin zuciyarmu. Koyaya, akwai da yawa waɗanda suke tunanin cewa sumbanta baya amfani da wata ma'anar ilimin halitta. Amma kuskure ne. Bari mu ga dalilin:
- Kisses ne mai nau'in yare. Ta hanyarsu ne muke zaban abokan da muke da su.
- Sumbatan gaba ne na jima'i. Su ne waɗancan lokutan inda buƙata da tashin hankali, muhimmiyar al'ada ce don haihuwar ɗan adam.
- Bari yanzu mu ajiye sumbanta kamar yadda muka fahimta. Wadanda aka aiwatar a matakin ma'aurata. Wannan isharar cike da so da kauna, shima yana da mahimmanci a cikin da tarbiyya na 'ya'yanmu. Wancan haduwa da kananan yara ta inda hakan, zai karfafa dankon kauna da kulawa. Mai mahimmanci ga ci gaban ɗan adam.
- Kiss, kamar yadda kake gani, wani muhimmin bangare ne na ilimin mu. Suna cika aikin tunani, na tunani mai mahimmanci ga jinsin mu.
Kiss da mahimmancin su ga lafiya
Tabbas a sama da lokuta daya kun taba jin fa'idar sumbatar jikin mu da kuma daidaita tunanin mu. Wadannan hujjoji ne masu ban sha'awa wadanda dole ne muyi la'akari dasu. Yi la'akari:
- da ma'aurata masu kwanciyar hankali da farin ciki, Tabbatar da cewa ɗayan sirrin farin cikinsu shine ainihin sumbanta.
- Sumbata hanya ce mai ban mamaki da tasiri don sauƙaƙa damuwa. Babu wani abu mafi kyau don kawo karshen tattaunawa.
- Kissis suna aiki don tabbatar da soyayyarmu. Alamu ne masu sauƙi waɗanda ke kwantar da tsoro, shakku ko rashin tsaro.
- Kissing yana karfafa mana tsarin rigakafi. Wannan jin dadin yana saukaka tashin hankali, yana tsarkake abubuwa masu guba kuma yana ƙarfafa kariyarmu ta ɗabi'a.
- Aikin ba da sumba mai cike da ambaliyar jiki yana mamaye jikinmu da abubuwan endorphin masu fa'ida. Waɗannan homon ɗin na farin ciki wanda ya kawo mana ƙoshin lafiya da daidaito.
- Sumbata tsara mana hawan jini. Bugun zuciyarmu yana hanzari, amma suna biye da ƙirar daidai kamar abin da za mu samu idan muka yi wani irin motsa jiki na haske.
- Kissing yana kona calories. Idan muka yi shi aƙalla rabin sa'a ta hanya mai shaawa, za mu ƙone tsakanin adadin 8 da 17.
- Sumbatarmu akai-akai tare da abokin tarayyarmu yana ƙarfafa namu girman kai. Yana sake tabbatar mana a cikin dangantakar mu, muna jin ana kauna, ana kauna kuma bi da bi, muna ba da soyayya ga ɗayan. Aiki mai sauƙi wanda aka loda da nau'uka da yawa masu mahimmanci ga halayenmu.
- Dangane da abin da ma'aurata mafi daɗewa da farin ciki suka gaya mana, sumbanta suna da mahimmanci safe da dare. Idan muka tashi da safe kuma muka ga abokan huldar mu, yaushe mukayi ban kwana daga gare su, kuma idan muka je barci da dare.
Kamar yadda kake gani, babu abin da ya fi lada da lafiya kamar sumba. Wadannan sahihan kauna na soyayya wanda yakamata muyi aiki dasu sosai a wannan Ranar soyayya.