La yanke shawara tsakanin ma'aurata abu ne mai mahimmanci, tunda yana iya sanya nasarar ƙungiyar ko gazawarta a cikin dogon lokaci. A cikin kowane ma'aurata dole ne ku yanke shawara lokaci-lokaci, kuma don wannan dole ne ku kasance cikin shiri. Akwai dalilai da yawa da zasu iya tasiri ga yanke shawara mai kyau.
para ci gaba a cikin ma'aurata dukansu su kasance cikin shawarwarin. Zuwa zama tare, samun ɗa ko rashin ɗa ɗaya daga cikin yanke shawara ɗaya ne waɗanda dole ne a yanke su. Wannan shine dalilin da ya sa dole ne ma'aurata su tuna wasu mabuɗan don yanke shawara mafi kyau.
Guji rashin tsaro
Idan wani ɓangare na ma'aurata ba shi da tsaro hakan zai bayyana a wajen yanke shawara. Mutane marasa tsaro sukan bar yanke shawara ga wasu saboda basu amince da hukuncin nasu ba kuma saboda sun gwammace kada su ɗauki alhakin gazawa idan akwai. Dole ne kuyi aiki akan hakan, saboda wannan yana sa yanke shawara ta ƙare ɗaukar ɓangare ɗaya kawai daga ma'auratan, wanda ba mai gamsarwa bane. A wannan yanayin, yana iya zama cewa mutumin da ba shi da tsaro ya bi ta bayan ɗayan, wanda ya fi aminci kuma yana da babba a cikin ma'auratan. Amma shawarar da aka yanke bazai dace da abin da kuke so ko buƙata a daidai wannan lokacin ba. Wannan shine dalilin da ya sa muke da matsala wacce ta zo daga gaskiyar cewa shawarar ba ta ɓangarorin biyu ba ce.
Kasance mai sadaukar da kai nan gaba
Idan a ma'aurata ɗayan biyun ba zaiyi ba yana da sadaukarwa ga rayuwa ta gaba, don ci gaba da ma'aurata kuma cewa wannan na rayuwa ne, to ba za a yanke hukunci tare da cikakken wayewar kan son amfanar ma'auratan da kansa ba, amma don kansa. Wannan yana sa ma'aurata su nisanta kansu, saboda aikin na gaba ba ɗaya bane ga duka biyun, tunda ɗayan ko duka biyun basu da wannan aikin a tare. Idan ba mu sadaukar da kanmu ga wani aiki na gaba tare da abokin aikinmu ba, sakamakon zai zama cewa za mu yanke hukunci tare da la'akari da mafi fa'ida ga kowane ɗayan a kowane lokaci. A wannan yanayin, ana iya cutar da ma'auratan a cikin dogon lokaci ta hanyar rashin wani aiki don su biyun.
Sanin yadda ake saurara
A lokuta da yawa abin da ya kasa a cikin ma'aurata shine sadarwa. Sanin yadda za'a saurara da kuma sanin yadda ake bayani kansa abubuwa ne masu matukar mahimmanci yayin yanke shawara, saboda sai da hakan ne zamu fahimci dalilan dayan kuma mu fahimta kanmu. Dole ne ku saurari dalilai kuma ku bar ɗayan yayi magana ba tare da katsewa ba. Dole ne dukansu su yi nazari kuma su faɗi ra'ayinsu don yanke shawara tare da cikakkiyar lamiri. Sirrin sadarwa mai kyau shine sauraro da amsawa tare da hangen nesan wani. Sai da kyakkyawar sadarwa za a iya cimma nasara cikin shawarar ma'aurata.
Narcissism a cikin ma'aurata
Wasu lokuta ba ya faruwa cewa mutum ba shi da tsaro, amma hakan akwai wani narcissist a tsakanin ma'aurata. Abin da wannan ke yi shi ne cewa mutumin kawai ya sadaukar da kansa ga yanke shawara bisa ga ra'ayin kansa. Mutane masu tsattsauran ra'ayi mutane ne masu guba waɗanda galibi suna rikici a cikin alaƙar su saboda son kai. Idan akwai irin wannan a cikin ma'auratan, dole ne ku san yadda za ku gaya musu don su san yadda suke. Canza narcissist yana da matukar wahala, amma idan wannan mutumin ya damu da abokin tarayyarsa, zasu iya buɗe idanunsu kuma su fara la'akari da wasu game da shawarar da suka yanke. In ba haka ba wannan kawai zai kawo rikice-rikice a cikin dangantakar.