Yana da matukar al'ada ganin yau mutane nawa ne ke da kwarin gwiwa ta dogaro ga abokin zamansu. Ko da yake a irin wannan yanayi yana daya daga cikin bangarorin da ke bukatar wani ya ji dadi da ba da ma'ana ga rayuwarsu. Hakanan ana iya samun lokuta na rashin amincewa da juna a cikin ma'aurata.
A irin wannan codependency, daya daga cikin jam'iyyun ne kawai farin ciki idan ya kasance kusa da abokin tarayya da kuma dayan bangaren kuma ya dogara da dogaro da abokin zamansa. A cikin labarin da ke gaba za mu yi magana kaɗan game da ƙayyadaddun ra'ayi a cikin ma'aurata da halayensa.
Ƙaunar motsin rai a cikin ma'aurata
A bayyane da sauƙi, ana iya cewa a cikin ladabi, mutumin da ke dogara yana buƙatar abokin tarayya don jin dadi, kuma mai dogara yana rayuwa ne kawai don samun jin dadi da jin dadin abokin tarayya. Makullin don kada a sami irin wannan ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun ayyuka a cikin hanyar da ba ta dace ba kuma ba don ciyar da dogaro da tunanin da ke akwai ba. Codependency ya ƙare yana lalata dangantakar da kanta, haifar da babu wani daga cikin jam'iyyun farin ciki a cikinsa.
Bayyanannun alamun rashin daidaituwa a cikin ma'aurata
Akwai wasu bayyanannun alamu ko halaye, wanda ke nuna cewa a cikin dangantakar ma'aurata akwai ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun motsin rai tsakanin bangarorin:
Rashin girman kai
Mutanen da suka dogara sau da yawa suna da ƙarancin girman kai da yarda da kai. Suna ƙoƙarin rama wannan rashin ta hanyar taimaka wa wanda ya dogara ya yi farin ciki.
sarrafa ma'aurata
Don jin amfani da kima a rayuwa, wanda ya dogara da shi yana sarrafa abokin tarayya, ta yadda zai ci gaba da samun wasu halaye da suka dogara da shi ga mutum. Ikon da ake amfani da shi akan abokin tarayya yana da manufar ɓata girman kansu ta yadda ta haka za su kasance gaba ɗaya dogara ga matakin tunani.
Tsoron 'yancin kai na ma'aurata
Babban tsoro yana haifar da gaskiyar cewa ma'auratan sun fahimci dogaro da tunanin da suke sha da kuma so su kasance masu zaman kansu da yawa a cikin dangantakar.
m tunani
A tsawon lokaci mutumin da ya dogara da shi ya zama gabaɗaya ya damu da abokin tarayya. Yana tunanin cewa burinsa kawai a rayuwa shi ne ya dogara da wani mutum a zuciya.
Ci gaba da zagi ga ma'aurata
Lokacin da abokin haɗin gwiwa bai yi aiki bisa ga ƙayyadaddun tsari ba, wanda ya dogara da shi ya zarge shi ta hanyar zagi da nufin bata masa rai. Ana nufin wannan don kiyaye abin dogaro da gaske.
Taimakon ilimin halin ɗan adam a cikin halayen halayen tunani
Lokacin da ake batun magance irin wannan matsala, yana da mahimmanci ma'aurata gaba ɗaya su sanya kansu a hannun ƙwararren masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam. Mafi inganci magani a kan codependency ne fahimi hali. Wannan maganin yana neman jerin maƙasudai bayyanannu:
- Ƙarfafa girman kai da amincewa a cikin ma'auratan biyu.
- Sadarwa tsakanin ma'aurata da bayyana ji daban-daban ba tare da wani tsoro ba.
- Ƙarfafa wasu 'yancin kai da cin gashin kai a cikin ma'aurata
- karfafa da sarrafa motsin rai.
- Cire tsoro ko tsoro zama ba tare da abokin tarayya ba.
A takaice, Ƙaƙƙarfan ƙaƙƙarfan motsin rai ya fi kowa fiye da yadda mutane za su yi tunani. A irin wannan yanayin yana da mahimmanci don nisantar da irin wannan guba kuma koyaushe zaɓi don dangantaka mai kyau. A cikin shekaru da yawa, ƙa'idodin da aka ambata a baya ya ƙare yana lalata ma'aurata kuma yana lalata yanayin tunanin ɓangarorin biyu.