Nemo abokin tarayya akan layi: haɗari da fa'idodi

Ana neman abokin kan layi? Yana iya wuce zuciyar ka a wani lokaci. Kuma shi ne cewa ba za mu iya musun bayyanannen abu ba, a yau akwai wasu hanyoyi na neman sabon alaƙar mutum, wanda ya wuce al'amuran yau da kullun da duk muka sani. Abokiyar aiki daga wurin aiki, wurin biki, abokiyar ƙawancen ƙungiyar, taron haɗuwa a cikin gidan abinci ... Yanar gizo yanzu tana bamu sabon yiwuwa wannan ya wuce duk wannan, inda mutane da yawa suka fi dacewa. Amma wannan yana da haɗari? Ko kuma lamari ne na zamantakewar da za mu iya amfani da shi yayin neman abokin tarayya?

Rashin lokaci, tattalin arziki, halin jin kunya, ko wataƙila, sauƙin sha'awar neman sabbin ƙwarewa, wani lokacin yakan kai mu ga neman mutumin musamman ta hanyar cibiyoyin sadarwar jama'a, ko takamaiman mashigai don shi. Yana da dadi, ba shakka. Daga gidanmu da gaban kwamfutar, kan iyakoki, kilomita har ma da wasu damuwarmu sun ɓace. Mun ji daɗin zama da sauƙi don yin hulɗa da mutanen da ba mu gani a zahiri. Wani sabon sarari don neman abokin tarayya wanda ya cancanci a bincika shi daki-daki.

Sabbin lokuta, sababbin ma'aurata

Ga mutane da yawa, neman abokin tarayya akan layi ba hanya ce ta keɓance ba, amma wata hanya ce ta daban hadu da mutane kuma me yasa ba, don samun kulla dangantaka. Amma bayanan ƙididdiga suna nan don gaya mana game da wannan gaskiyar: fiye da rabin yawan jama'a suna amfani da hanyoyin sadarwar jama'a don neman abokin tarayya, suna barin daidaito tsakanin jinsi sosai ko da. 48% mata ne yayin da 52% kuma maza ne. Saboda haka an kafa Intanet azaman matsakaiciyar hanyar amfani da ita don ma'amala ... har ma don yaudara.

1. Amfanin yanar gizo dan samun abokin zama

Mabuɗin farko don nasarar cibiyoyin sadarwar jama'a idan ya zo ga neman abokin tarayya, babu shakka rashin sani. A cikin yanayi mai aminci da kulawa kamar ɗakinmu, muna fara musayar tattaunawa da tattaunawa da mutanen da ba mu gani a zahiri. Wannan yana ba mu 'yanci, da kuma yarda da kai ta hanyar jin cewa mun mallaki yanayin. Babu shakka wannan yanki ne mai fa'ida sosai ga waɗanda ba su da tsaro, mutanen da ke da ƙarancin girman kai ko ƙarancin ra'ayi. Sadarwa koyaushe tana da ruwa, a buɗe har ma da kusanci.

Yanar gizo tana bamu damar sami damar shiga ga mutane da yawa waɗanda, a cikin yanayi na zahiri da na ainihi, ba zai yiwu mana ba a zahiri. Zamu iya magana da saduwa da mutane daga wasu al'ummomin, har ma daga wasu ƙasashe.

Lokacin neman abokin tarayya akan layi, muna kuma da wata fa'ida. Iya tata zabin mu. Don sha'awar mutane masu kamanta abubuwan dandano da damuwa, halaye iri ɗaya ... saboda haka nasarar takamaiman hanyoyin Intanet don nemo abokin tarayya. Zamu iya saita masu tacewa, zabi abubuwan da muke so, watsar dasu, kwatanta ... Mun ajiye rashin dacewar alakar mutum don nuna kwatankwacin abin da muke so.

Hulɗar zamantakewar jama'a ta hanyar Intanet, faruwa a tsakanin ta lokacin da muka zaba. Wato, mu ne masu yanke shawara, a cikin lokacin hutu ko hutu, lokacin da muke hulɗa tare da wasu mutane. Duk wannan yana ba mu ma'anar iko na "bayyane" wanda, a kallon farko, yana gamsar da mutane da yawa, yana mai da su cikin jaraba ta gaskiya ga wannan nau'in neman alaƙar.

2. Haɗarin Intanet don samun abokin tarayya

Dukanmu mun san haɗarin da ke tattare da neman wannan mafi kyawun rabin a cikin waɗannan kafofin watsa labarai. Akwai mutane da yawa da suka ɓoye a baya bayanan karya. Bayan hotunan da ba gaskiya bane da kuma halaye waɗanda suke ɗaukar hoto. Tare da wannan, ba su nufin komai face su jawo hankalin abokan hulɗa a bi da bi, suna nuna wani abu da ba su ba ne a zahiri. Kuma ba muna magana ne kawai game da waɗancan maza ko matan da suke ƙaryata hotunansu ko bayanan su ba.

Abu ne sananne sosai don akwai alaƙar alaƙa da ke farawa akan Intanet inda ɗayansu ke ƙoƙari don nuna mafi kyawun kansa. A cikin bayyanar da hankali, ladabi da kirki. Amma Intanit ba matsakaici bane. Kowannensu yayi magana, rubutu ko nuna kansa daga matsakaici mai tsaro da sirri, inda yake da sauƙin fadawa cikin ƙarya don jan hankalin ɗayan. Inda ake amfani da yaudara don zama mafi kyau. Dole ne a yi la'akari da shi kuma ya kasance mai hankali a kowane lokaci.

Intanit, hanya ce mai aminci don nemo abokin tarayya?

Wasu masana, kamar Erich H.Witte, masanin halayyar dan adam kuma farfesa a Jami’ar Hamburg, ya gaya mana cewa sararin samaniya zai zama babbar hanyar neman abokin zama a cikin shekaru masu zuwa. Dalilin? Ginin ba kawai don kafa sadarwa kai tsaye, ruwa da kusanci a lokaci guda ba, har ma da yiwuwar kafa "sigogin bincike". Idan mukayi mamakin ko yanar gizo hanyar aminci ce don neman abokin tarayya, amsar ta dogara da farko kuma mafi mahimmanci akan mu. Na tsantseni, na mu taka tsantsan da ido mai kyau.

Dole ne mu sanya daidaito yayin musayar bayanai, kare kanmu a kowane lokaci. Intanit hanya ce mai kyau don tuntuɓar farko. Don magana game da abubuwan dandano da sha'awa, don fahimtar wannan farkon jan hankali ga wanda alama yake raba abubuwan dandano da ra'ayoyi iri ɗaya. Shi ne manufa don farawa. Ba shi da kyau a ci gaba da dangantaka daga nesa da wanda ba mu taɓa gani ba a zahiri. Ma'aurata na gaskiya an kafa su tare da fuska da fuska, tare da rayuwar yau da kullun na yawo, abincin dare, maraice na yamma da kofi a gaban juna.

Haƙiƙan halayen kowane ɗayansu ya bayyana a waɗannan lokutan, kuma ba cikin sirrin ɗakunanmu ba a gaban kwamfuta, inda kowannensu zai iya ɓoyewa bayan rashin sani. Don haka ka tuna. Shin yanar gizo kayan aiki ne mai kyau don samun abokin tarayya? Koyaushe yana taimaka mana don hanyar farko, wanda hakan zai biyo baya ranar farko mahimmanci.