Ba kwata-kwata ba sabon abu bane ganin adadin adadi mai yawa wanda ya danganci haɗewar motsin rai.. Babbar matsalar ita ce, mutane da yawa suna ganin wannan abin da aka makala a matsayin wani abu ne na al'ada tsakanin ma'auratan.
Koyaya, haɗuwa ba iri ɗaya bane da soyayya da yanci da yanci a kowace dangantaka shine mabuɗin idan ya kasance cikin farin ciki tsakanin ma'auratan. A cikin labarin mai zuwa zamu baku jerin jagororin don cimma wata damuwa ta ɓacin rai tsakanin abokin tarayya.
Makullin sanin cewa kuna fama da haɗarin motsin rai
Ofaya daga cikin mafi kyawun al'amurran da zasu iya nuna cewa kuna fama da haɗe-haɗe, Gaskiyar ita ce rashin jin daɗin freedomancinku da independenceancin ku na mutum. Kulawa da abokin zaman ka a kowane lokaci ba shi da kyau kwata-kwata kuma hakan na iya sanya dangantakar ta zama mai guba.
Yin farin ciki ba zai iya dogaro da abokin tarayya a kowane lokaci ba. Dole ne mutum ya kasance mai farin ciki don kansa da kuma waninsa. Idan wannan bai faru ba, al'ada ce cewa dangantakar da ake magana akan ta ta ƙaunaci ƙawancen mutum ne.
Abin da bayyanar cututtuka ke faruwa a haɗewar motsin rai
Akwai alamun bayyanar da ke bayyane waɗanda yawanci ke nuna cewa mutum ba shi da kowane irin 'yanci kuma yana nuna ƙawancen motsin rai mai ƙarfi:
- Mutumin baya iya jin daɗi a kowane lokaci, idan abokin zamanka baya nan.
- An rike ma'auratan akan bagadi kuma kawai zaka ga kyawawan halaye da kyawawan abubuwa game da shi.
- Kasancewar kishi da tsoron rasa shi har abada.
- Babu girman kai da amincewa.
- Akwai wasu damuwa da damuwa domin sanin kowane lokaci abinda ma'auratan sukeyi.
Muhimmancin rashin hankali a cikin ma'aurata
Kamar yadda muka riga muka ambata a sama, haɗuwa da zuciya ba shi da kyau ga ma'aurata tunda ba lafiya ga ɗayan mutanen biyu ba. Da kyau, ƙungiya ta kasance a kowane lokaci:
- Abu daya ne zama a matsayin ma'aurata tare da raba rayuwa tare da wani mutum kuma wani abin kuma shine takaita rayuwa ga ma'auratan gaba daya. Yana da mahimmanci don samun rayuwar kanku don iya yin abubuwa ɗayanku kamar fita da abokai ko sayayya.
- Kada farin ciki ya kasance ga ma'aurata kawai. Duk da samun dangantaka da wani, dole ne ka san yadda ake zama kai kaɗai kuma zaka iya more wani kaɗaici lokaci zuwa lokaci.
- Ba za ku iya dogaro da wani don farin ciki ba. Dole ne babban mutum ya sami farin ciki ga kansa, sa cikin taimakon kowa.
- Ma'aurata ba za su iya dogara ga rashin yarda ba saboda wannan ba shi da lafiya ga irin wannan dangantakar. Dogaro ginshiƙi ne na asali wanda dole ne a gina wasu alaƙa a kansa. Idan wannan ya faru babu dalilin da fargabar kishi ya bayyana. Baya ga wannan kuma don can ya kasance ƙungiyar, yana da mahimmanci kuma akwai tattaunawa tsakanin mutanen biyu.
A takaice, Duk wata alaƙar da ake ɗauka lafiya ce dole ne ta dogara da ɓacin rai na waɗannan mutane. Wannan ƙungiyar shine mabuɗin don ƙarfafa dangantakar kuma duka mambobin suna da farin ciki da gaske.