da Ugsununi Hanya ce ta nuna kauna tsakanin mutane da kuma nuna kauna tsakanin ma'aurata. Sun bayar da kwantantuwa fa'idodi na zahiri da na kwakwalwa y dan Haraji ga wannan keɓaɓɓiyar duniyar inda hulɗa da dumin ɗayan ya wuce tufafinmu da fatarmu don kawo mana daidaito da jin daɗi. Don haka, ɗauki ɗan lokaci ka yi tunani game da shi: Sau nawa a rana kuke rungumar abokin tarayya?
Shin kun inganta tsakaninku da muhimmin harshe ba da lafazi cikin kowace dangantaka? Ressoƙarin shafawa, runguma, motsa hannu, kamannuna… cike suke da kiɗa waɗanda ke ba da rai ga rayuwarmu; Suna da asali kuma ya kamata mu motsa su duk lokacin da zamu iya.
Akwai karatu da yawa da aka gudanar a kan wannan batun. Isar da shi a ce, misali, cewa index of rabuwa Ya fi girma a tsakanin ma'aurata inda ɗayan membobin ba su bayyana wannan kusancin na zahiri ba, tunda soyayyar da alama "ba ta daidaita ba" kuma ɗayansu koyaushe yana buƙatar waɗannan runguma ko waɗancan kulawar zuwa mafi girma. Bugu da ƙari kuma, akwai tabbatacciyar shaida cewa waɗancan yara waɗanda suka girma kuma suka yi karatu a gidan marayu kuma ba su sami damar girma da shi ba saduwa ta jiki na iyayensu balaga da tsanani raunin rashin aiki wanda hakan kan haifar da wasu matsaloli na hankali da zamantakewar al'umma wanda ke sanya wahalar hadewar su cikin wahala.
Don haka, buƙatar fahimtar cewa wannan harshen da ba na baki ba na shafawa, runguma da kamannuna, yana da mahimmanci ma'aurata su haɓaka da haɓaka dangantakar su.
Amfanin runguma da shafa jiki
- Rungume mai sauki yana rage namu matakan damuwa ta hanya mai mahimmancin gaske. Lokaci ne na nutsuwa da daidaituwa tsakanin ma'aurata wanda ke daidaita damuwarmu.
- Sun bamu tsaro kuma kariya.
- Sadarwa positivism, kulawa da soyayya.
- Mun inganta namu yanayi.
- Mu karfin jini.
- Yi imani da shi ko a'a, runguma da kulawa yana inganta namu ƙwaƙwalwar: wannan yanayin natsuwa yana haifar da jerin ƙwayoyin cuta masu bazuwar rufin asiri wanda zai daidaita tunanin mu. Babu wani abu mafi kyau fiye da kwanciyar hankali don motsin zuciyarmu don tabbatar da kowane tunani.
- Mu endorphins, Waɗannan ƙawayen da kwakwalwarmu kuma ke ɓoye a matakin gland yana ba mu wannan jin daɗi da kwanciyar hankali.
Bukatar saduwa ta jiki
Runguma, hannaye, yatsu, dumi na shafawa... abubuwa ne masu motsa jiki waɗanda ke kunna jikinmu nan take aika saƙonni zuwa kwakwalwarmu, ta hanyar mahara masu karɓa cewa muna da fata. Dole ne kuma mu sani cewa kwakwalwarmu ingantacciya ce kuma mai hankali; shi ne yake bamu lada idan muka yi abu mai kyau. Shafawa ko sumba yana yanke hukunci a matsayin abin jin daɗi, kamar yin wasanni, kuma yana ba mu adadin endorphin da yawa da aka rarraba a jikinmu, yana ba mu jin daɗin rayuwa.
Ya kamata a ce a cikin waɗancan ma'aurata waɗanda ba a "faɗin" wannan yaren a cikinsu ba babu daidaito daidai wanda zai iya ƙarfafa alaƙa ta al'ada, ƙusoshin ra'ayoyi na asali ne don yin jima'i, don isa ga inzali ...
Sakamakon rashin "magana" da fatarmu
Hakikanin rayuwa ba tare da shafawa ba, ba tare da runguma ba, ba tare da isasshen matakin saduwa ta jiki ba yakan haifar da mummunan sakamako ba kawai ga ma'auratan ba, har ma ga wasu daga cikin membobin, musamman ga waɗanda suke buƙatar wannan ma'anar. Waɗanne sakamako za mu iya sha?
- Un raguwar darajar kanmu: mun fara tunanin cewa ba a son mu, ba mu da kyan gani ga abokin tarayyarmu.
- Tsaro: in babu saduwa ta zahiri zamu iya fara tunanin cewa bamu yin wani abu daidai, cewa abokin tarayyarmu baya farin ciki tare da mu kuma muna fuskantar haɗarin barin mu.
- Halin damuwa: tsoro, rashin tsaro ko ƙasƙantar da kai wani lokaci na iya haifar da halaye marasa kyau, kamar fara cin abinci fiye da al'ada, shan sigari fiye da yadda ake buƙata ko kawai fara canza halayenmu har ma da halayenmu.
Babu wanda zai iya musun hakan runguma mai gaskiya wanda aka bayyana a lokacin da ya dace, yana da kyawawan halaye na kwantar da dukkan shakku da tsoro. Koyaya, dole ne mu ji cewa wannan rashin daidaito na gaskiya ne, ana ɗora shi da ƙauna. Kuma shine lallashi da runguma suna da cikakken ikon warkarwa, saboda haka dole ne muyi aiki dashi kowace rana.
Yaren kallo
Ba wai kawai runguma ke bayyana ji ba; kamannuna ko idanu suna rubuta wani yare a cikin mutanenmu wanda kuma yake tantance alaƙarmu. Dogaro da irin kallon da abokin tarayyarmu yake mana, zamu ji ake so ko babu; Dogaro da tsarkin zuciyar idanunsu, idan suka kauce ko suka dena mu, zamu fassara ko karya suke mana ko kuma suna magana da mu daga zuciya ... Gaskiya ne cewa akwai mutanen da suka fi wasu kunya, akwai waɗanda ba sa iya sa idanunsu a kanmu yayin da muke zuwa gare su, amma ana iya cewa wannan nau'in nuances na asali ne a cikin dangantaka da ma'aurata.
Kallon tabbaci ne, hankali ne da soyayya ... yana da matukar muhimmanci ga wannan yaren da mutane ke ginawa sannan kuma, a game da ma'aurata, suna matsayin wani babban ginshiƙi don haɓaka tare da isassun jeri don tabbatar da farin ciki. Don haka kada ku yi shakka bayyana soyayyar ku kowace rana, runguma da kulawa sune waɗancan duniyoyi masu ban sha'awa waɗanda zamu lulluɓe kanmu don samun tabbaci na ƙauna, don jin kariya da gamsuwa da namu farin ciki.