Loveauna mai haɗuwa shine wanda ke faruwa tsakanin mutane biyu waɗanda suka yanke shawarar cin amana akan ƙoshin lafiya, jituwa da aiki. Waɗannan mutane sun yanke shawarar barin ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunatacciyar ƙa'idar da aka yi la'akari da rayuwa kuma suka zaɓi ƙaunatacciyar ƙauna ta ainihi bisa ƙa'idodi masu mahimmanci a cikin ma'aurata kamar girmamawa da sadarwa.
Sanya guba da gaskiyar cewa soyayya tana wahala, don rayuwa cikin ƙoshin lafiya da ƙoshin lafiya. A cikin labarin da ke tafe za mu yi bayani dalla-dalla abin da irin wannan ƙaunar ta ƙunsa da kuma halayen da ya kamata a ba su a cikin abokin tarayya da kansa.
Hadaddiyar soyayya
Wannan nau'in soyayya yana farawa ne daga gaskiyar cewa a cikin ma'aurata dole ne a koda yaushe samun daidaito da daidaito tsakanin ɓangarorin. Ba tare da wata shakka ba hanya ce ta ƙaunaci wani mutum. A cikin soyayya, ba kowane abu ne mai inganci ba kuma ba za a sami rashin daidaito da halaye marasa kyau a cikin al'ada ba. Abun takaici har zuwa yau, wannan na cigaba da faruwa kuma mata da yawa suna karkashin kawayen su, ba tare da sun sani ba.
Waɗanne halaye ne ƙaunataccen ƙauna ke da su
Akwai halaye da yawa wadanda suke sanya soyayya tsakanin mutane biyu ta haduwa:
- Akwai sha'awa da kuma babban ƙoƙari na ma'aurata saboda soyayya da dangantaka suna daɗa ƙarfi kuma suna tafiya gaba. Don wannan ya faru, dole ne ku sami cikakken haɗin kai tsakanin ma'auratan.
- Babu tsoron kadaici da zama kai kaɗai saboda babu dogaro da motsin rai. Lokacin da abubuwa basa tafiya an yanke zumunci ta hanyar balaga kuma ba tare da kaiwa ga rikici ko faɗa ba.
- A cikin ma'aurata dole ne a sami jituwa da girmama juna a cikin sassa daidai. Babu gwagwarmayar iko kuma ba zai iya kasancewa a kan ɗayan ba.
- Jin daɗin rayuwa dole ne ya ci gaba kamar yadda ya dace da juna. Daya daga cikin bangarorin dole ne ya karba amma kuma dole ne ya bayar. Abu mai mahimmanci shine ma'auratan suna cikin farin ciki.
- Hadin kai da aikin mutane duka suna da mahimmanci yayin da alakar ke kara karfi. Babu wani amfani kasancewa cikin dangantaka wanda ɗayan ɓangarorin ke aiki kuma ɗayan yana wucewa.
- Babu ɗayan ɗayan da zai iya zama ɗayan. Dole ne a mutunta sarari na mutum don a sami isasshen 'yanci don aiwatarwa, ba tare da jin ɗaure kowane lokaci ba.
A takaice, ƙaunatacciyar soyayya tana neman samar da ma'aurata daga mutane biyu masu zaman kansu. Dole ne dangantakar ta haɓaka kowace rana saboda aiki da haɗin gwiwar mutanen biyu. Daidaito da mutunta juna wani bangare ne na birgewa a cikin wannan nau'in soyayya. Babu wani mutum da yake ɗaure kuma suna da toancin kawo ƙarshen dangantakar lokacin da suka ga dace. Abu mai mahimmanci shine kasancewa cikin nutsuwa da kuma aiwatar da lafiyayyen nau'in soyayya.