Not all lies are the same and it is not the same to do it innocently, that doing it with evil and knowing that it will cause significant harm to the other person. In the case of the couple, lying repeatedly and regularly will destroy one of the most important values in any relationship: trust.
Without trust you cannot bequeath to support any type of couple that can be considered healthy. Under no circumstances can one of the partners be allowed to use lies on a regular basis and if this happens, they should be stopped as soon as possible.
The lie in the couple
It is true that lies are in the light of day and in the case of couples this is no exception. However, the great percentage of these lies consist of omitting various facts that can help to strengthen the partner itself. It is what is known as white lies and they seek above all to give greater security and strength to the relationship itself. Totally different are the lies as such and that cause great damage in the couple, even breaking down a value as essential as trust between the two people.
In the event that the couple regularly and frequently resort to lies, it is important to inquire and know why he uses lies within the relationship. From here, the couple is in charge of deciding if they decide to continue with such a relationship or if it is not worth a second chance and cut their losses. Anyway, you cannot put up with a pathological liar as the relationship would become toxic and there would be no kind of trust between the parties.
What to do if the partner lies
It is not at all the same that the couple has lied only once or that they do it out of habit. From here, the deceived person must ask himself if the other person is worthy of trust and if he or she resembles the values that should be present in a healthy relationship.
In all cases, dialogue and communication in the couple is key when it comes to solving any type of problems or conflicts that may occur. Apart from this, there must be a commitment on the part of the two people, since otherwise it is something that can happen again in the short or medium term.
The self-esteem of the hurt person is another aspect to take into account when forgiving a lie. It is not easy or simple to rebuild the broken trust and if the emotional state is low it can be difficult to get the relationship back on its feet. That is why self-esteem in such cases is so important as well as essential. You have to be very sure before taking the important step of forgiving the person who is lying and giving them a second chance.