How the power struggle affects the couple


Power is usually one of the reasons for conflicts or fights in many couples. Power struggles are constant and habitual, something that does not benefit the couple themselves. Things get even worse when the party that gets the power uses it for its own benefit and doesn't use it to improve the relationship with the other party.

In the following article we will talk about the power struggle in the couple and how damaging it can be to the relationship.

The struggle for power in the couple

Distributing power within the couple is not an easy or simple task. You have to take into account the needs of both people and if this does not occur, it is likely that things will end badly. The normal thing is that with the passage of time, the aforementioned power is equated and each person uses it appropriately at certain times.

It cannot be that within a certain relationship, it is only one person who has that power and the other party simply limits itself to accepting the other's decisions. Over time, such dominance can cause serious harm to the partner and cause the relationship to become dangerously weak.

Problems due to the power struggle in the couple

The power struggle that occurs regularly within a couple, it can cause a myriad of problems:

  • It may happen that the power struggle is due to the fact that the two people want to assume the dominant role. Both people want to be right at all times, causing conflicts and fights at all hours of the day. Neither of them gives their arm to twist and this makes living together really complicated and difficult. In these cases, it is important to empathize with the partner as much as possible and put yourself in the shoes of the other.
  • In the same way, different conflicts can arise in the event that no one within the couple, want to assume power and dominance. The lack of security in the couple is more than evident and this ends up damaging the relationship itself. In this case, it is essential to expose the different opinions and from there take the initiative jointly.


In short, the power struggle within a couple can be considered as something normal and should not be anything bad, as long as such dominance and power do not cause harm to the other part of the couple. There must be some balance in the power that each person has within the relationship. What is not good for the couple is that this distribution of power is the reason for continuous conflicts of all kinds.

If this happens, it would be important to sit down and talk in a calm way and establish a series of agreements according to the fact of who has dominance within the couple. Ideally, power will change hands according to the different decisions that must be made within the relationship. Otherwise the situation can become untenable with all the bad things that this entails for the couple.

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